June 27, 2018
You go to a party and run into your ex-partner. It has been a long time that you guys caught up and so you decide to strike up a friendly conversation. The sad, messy part of your break up is long over and behind both of you. And it is time you guys decide to just be cordial and friendly. Only when you are talking, you realise that the spark, the chemistry and the excitement that you guys once shared is still alive. How could it not? You may all have grown up but intellectually you are the same people. There is still witty banter and fireworks.
One thing leads to the other and you feel like you are drawn towards them again. You ask them if they are seeing anyone. They tell you they aren’t. They ask you the same question, you tell them you haven’t had any long-term anything off late. There is a glance exchanged and you know you are in trouble.
That is a lot of times how people consider getting back with their exes. They also make for good stories. And as much as the idea of getting back with an ex has been vilified, isn’t it always different for different people? Mostly depending on why they broke up in the first place? So if you have found yourself in a similar situation, time to ask yourself these questions.
Why did you break up in the first place?
Be not ambiguous at all. Did you guys break up because of fundamental differences in personality, or because the timing and the circumstances weren’t favourable? If former, tread carefully and assess. If it is the latter, you might want to gauge the idea of getting back together.
Are you two looking for the same things now?
You know what tends to be easy sometimes? Sex with an ex. Safe and sound bet to a great orgasm. Which is why you need to be sure that it is dating and giving your relationship another try that is on BOTH your minds. No way to rebuild a relationship if you aren’t looking for the same thing.
Are you both still as compatible?
The chemistry might be intact, sure. You are both still as attractive physically and drawn to each other sexually. But what about the other aspects? Understanding, respect, conversations, the ability to trust, these are important things. And maybe you may want to stay friends for a while and get to know all of this before you pull a Take II.