December 5, 2019
When you are in a couple, there are a lot of fights that can mess things up between you and your partner. Understanding is essential to make any relationship work, but sometimes the fights are about something that needs a lot more than communication to be resolved. One such fight arises when one partner feels they need to fight for their personal space in the relationship. Sure, a relationship is about two people sharing their lives and time, but no matter what, personal space is very important. And if you are the kind of person who struggles with boundaries, the idea of personal space and how to give it, here are some things to keep in mind.
See it as a positive thing
Spending time apart and doing your own thing is all very healthy not just for you but also your partner and the relationship. Not only do you maintain a balance between your own life and your identity in a couple, but you are able to devote time to every aspect of your life mindfully.
Know that it is not about you
A lot of times, people think that a partner asking for their space is a marker that they aren’t happy in the relationship or they want out. That is untrue; a partner asking for their space is just one of their many needs. Not only do both the people need to communicate their boundaries and needs in a healthy and unambiguous way, but they also need to not brush up any insecurity.
Know what you feel
If the idea of giving space stresses you out, let your partner know so you can together work out a solution or a middle ground. Make sure you are both on the same page and one isn’t feeling like the other is trying to push them away.