In today’s day and age, it i almost a sacrilege if you haven’t seen a blue film. If you haven’t, you don’t belong to this planet, period! For some, the transition from a child to a teenager happens through some of these films. But anything in excess can be harmful and it is true for pornograhy too. Just like an alcohol addict, you may be a pornography addict that has the ability to destroy your marriage and bonds of love.

It is a compulsive behaviour that needs to be checked. “We boast of being one the porn hubs of the world by knocking Canada out of the 3rd spot. India with its 300 million web users, watching porn is a fairly common activity for the internet users. We apparently according to a well known site love teen porn and Indian porn. And not to forget, Sunny Leone is the most searched pornstar. And not only men, women also watch porn frequently,” says Satish Raghavan.  With such statistics, we can easily deduce that we have addicts as well who are struggling to come out of the loop of misery.

Rachna Chatterjee, a housewife from Bangalore would often complain to her friends about the ordeal of compulsory blue film watching before some action in bed.She would say that it was hard to arouse her partner without it.

“Pornography is different from promiscuity, compulsive masturbation, pedophile etc. Sex addiction is complex because it involves intimate emotions. For most people who just enjoy a blue film, it isn’t the only arousing factor. They will get aroused with a physical contact. But for addicts, they destroy good relationships by spending hours looking for and watching porn,” says Dr Bhowmik.  He adds, “Infact the fantasy takes over a genuine contact and the ability to love someone without watching a blue film. It is hard to overcome this addiction but not impossible. With counselling, this can be overcome.”

Is there a backstory?

Many researches have cited reasons behind such addictions. The main reason cited to be is the physical and emotional abuse as children.

Some of them have battled abuse and restrictions of another kind where they were made to believe that masturbation is shameful. “  These very people are socially very awkward, Perhaps because of their past, they lose the confidence to have real life relationships that are both fulfilling and satisfying,” says Moumita Chakraborty, Counsellor.

Some damages that addiction causes

You spouse or partner no longer has the ability to arouse you

You get lazy and don’t want to do foreplay

You have poor libido, you want to be quick with action

You have unrealistic expectations from your partner because you see a world where two are always aroused.

You are like an alcoholic who’s looking to get a high..So the porn that used to initially work on you would no longer appeal to you after a few months, so you would look for some weirder porn and there is no end to this.

Porn is very physical unlike love making which is more intimate and real. But unfortunately porn takes away the intimacy.

Porn users are often selfish, looking to satisfy just themselves. So, they look for instant satisfaction.

(Names have been changed to protect the identity of the people who have contributed to the article.)