November 17, 2017
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We are approaching International Men’s Day, which on the 19th of November, and I was wondering how the world is going to celebrate it. How and why would you celebrate just a single day when the rest of the 364 days are for you, barring one, which is International women’s Day? Do men really need this celebration? Do we really need to have a day dedicated to men?
It is a man’s world after all, but does that mean that they can be victims of stereotypes and patriarchy just as we do? No, men don’t shed tears. They are more likely to not show emotions, they must carry a demeanour at all times. If they are soft, then they are most likely to be panzy. They have to make the first move in a relationship. They are expected to run a house. In most cases, they have a raw deal in divorce settlement. Yet, nothing can match up to the disparity between the two sexes.
“Girls aren’t given a chance to be born in India. A report in 2016 claimed that India lost 3million girls in infanticide.Imagine how scary that scenario is. We still crave for a boy child,” says Sudeshna Saha Roy, HR with an IT firm. She adds, “And if they are allowed life, A study of the diets of boys and girls living in Andhra Pradesh and Telengana revealed that by the age of 15, boys are likely to be eating a wider variety of foods than girls, particularly in families with high aspirations for their children’s education. So foods rich in protein, carbohydrate and vitamins are given to a boy child than a girl child.”
It is hard to be a woman in this very manly world. You are constantly negotiating spaces with the so called superior being. “If you are fortunate to not encounter gender inequality at home, then you will encounter it at your work space. Women keep speaking about the glass ceiling. Indian women earn 25% less than men. Gender still remains a determining factor when it comes to salaries,” says Rupama P, Housewife. Haven’t you heard kangana Ranaut and Deepika Padukone talk about disparity in pay even in bollywood? So, it isn’t surprising that 70% businesses abroad are run by men, and the percentage will be much higher here in India. “We are lauding women entrepreneurs because they are few and far in between. We have a long way to go before we see women entrepreneurs more in numbers,” says Sandhya Kumar, HR.
Adding to the same tone, Sayantan Das says, “We men have it really easy. We don’t die in childbirth. We aren’t molested as much in work space, we aren’t raped as horrifically. We don’t have to be at the receiving end of sexist comments as much. But we must nevertheless celebrate the day; laud those men who are role models, champions of causes of gender equality and to create awareness about men’s diseases and how to overcome issues that needs attention.”