May 9, 2018
If you have a tingling sensation somewhere in the pit of your stomach because you have a big date tonight, then it probably marks the fact that you are crazy nervous. And why not? First dates can get you as nervous as they can get you all excited. And it is so much worse when it is a date with a guy you are actually quite keen on dating. Which is all the more reason why you need to not mess it up; well, at least from your end. So how do we do that? How does one make sure that you are at your best, comfortable self?
Here are some tips that should help you get going.
Remind yourself that you are in control as much as the other person
If it doesn’t go well, you can leave. You can keep it as short as you want in case you don’t feel comfortable. That being said, don’t worry about these things as they take away from the fun aspect of the date. Your boundaries are something you get to decide because they are for you, not something you are doing TO the other person.
Take the pressure off
You don’t have to have grand date if you aren’t very good with your or the other person’s expectations. You can simply go for a coffee rather than go for a dinner. Or maybe a walk, or a sports bar. You know relaxed and chilled out.
Keep a friend in the know
My friend and I have a secret code that we text each other when we need rescuing from a social situation. Well hey what are friends for? But either way, at least one person should always know where you are and with whom.
Keep a check on how you are feeling, and be clear with the person
A lot of times we get ourselves into awkwards situations because we don’t check with how we are feeling first. That also leads to miscommunication with your date and therefore may cause issues. So it is important to know what you are feeling, and you can take it from there.